I have a little different take: - this is not about poly relationship....

Your girlfriend has an "interest", which actually excludes you out of the picture, and even worst, an interest in a gender that is not yours! What if she says: "well I am actually into fish! " ? So she is not playing out a fantasy with you, but exploring without you.

In general trisome is the worst possible situation, swings are different as well as orgies, but the worst in trisome is that one is always left out, the best way is to have oneerson only watch. If you are third in a couple, you are their toy. And if you get too into one person, it will get interrupted so the couple will reassure each other, wery complicated and stressful I totally don't recomend it.

I see it as a problem, especially if you take relationship seriously, it seems you are young, so enjoy yourself for now, we all get burned, it's only way to grow. But at the same time pay attention to red flags, and do a lots of pharma....

Best to you
Jox

Ps
What is all this British monogamy conservatism all about?

I think that if you are the kind of person that is ok with sometimes being left out of things it shouldn"t be really be an issue.



Jox i really wouldn"t know where to start on that particular conundrum. The British are a funny lot. Sometimes they are quiet and reserved when it comes to sexual congress and at other times they drink to excess and go out and have sex in the street with anything that moves.