Believe me, protostar, I am only commenting on this because, for some reason unbeknownst to me, you have struck a chord of empathy somewhere inside me and therefore I am only trying to help you.
Many posts made by other noobs around here that contain a similar flavor of situation to what you have been stating in your posts get no response from me, because I usually think to myself something like, "this poor person is beyond help and I don't know what I could say to rectify the situation".
However, that being said, I am going to say a few more things regarding what you are expressing here and I hope that what I am stating will help you in some way.
protostar wrote:...but I KNOW that there is a woman named XXXX that is doing this to me...
Firstly, this is not a statement that somebody who is taking full responsibility for themselves makes.
Secondly, NOBODY, not a human, nor a hyperspatial entity, nor any other being, can do anything to you without your conscious or unconscious consent, period.
Believing so is playing the victim role which does absolutely nothing to move one forward on an evolutionary path of self-realization. Becoming a better human being and constantly growing emotionally, psychologically, spiritually and otherwise takes radical self-responsibility and self-acceptance and I am not stating this lightly. This is not some New Age/woo-woo kind of stuff that I am talking about here, I am talking about straight-up taking responsibility for the totality of who you are, or as I am inclined to say, "owning your own shit".
Ok, now that I am done with my rant about the realities of self-responsibility, perhaps it would behoove you, protostar, to conjure up a powerful self-protection spell in order to be able to get yourself grounded and feel empowered. Just a thought.
Freedom's so hard
When we are all bound by laws
Etched in the scheme of nature's own hand
Unseen by all those who fail
In their pursuit of fate